Wednesday, August 3, 2011

Guest Blogger: The Farmer's Wife. "It Must Be Love"

Angie and I have been run off our feet lately with our madeit store reopening, term 3 on distance education, netball carnivals, pony shopping, Capella Craft Fair, market night preparations, school P & C meetings, mustering, end of the financial year craziness and much more.  We thought we'd ask for some guest bloggers to blog for us while we attempt to catch our breath.

Welcome to Jess The Farmer's Wife, we're sure you'll all enjoy her guest blog as much as we did .


Hi Everyone!

Angie and Kristy have invited me to do my first ever spot of guest blogging. I am so excited to be able to share a little bit of me with all of you.

Ten years ago I moved to St George, Queensland, to do a 'country stint' of teaching. I had no intention whatsoever of staying, and only two weeks after arriving, I met my now husband, CP. I still teach, on and off, but mostly I am a Mum and Farmer's Wife.

My blog, The Farmer Has A Wife, is about life in a rural community from a city girl perspective. It's funny, it's factual, but mostly it's just the honest to goodness truth.

I hope you enjoy it as much as I do!

Jess xxx (The Farmer's Wife)

It Must Be Love

It's interesting when you think about all the different ways that people show 'love'.

A few years ago CP and I were driving back home from Brisbane together. I had been away with the kids for a few weeks, and dear husband had come to collect us for the long drive back again. About half way into the journey CP turned to me with the most loving look in his eyes. He took my hand in his, and gave me a big goofy smile. Then he said, "I've got a surprise for you at home. It's something that will make you very happy." Well naturally, my curiosity was piqued, so I started to guess.
"Is it sparkly, and can I wear it on my finger?"
"No, it's not sparkly and you can't wear it."
"Is it something I can use? Like maybe something in the kitchen?"
"No, it's bigger than that."
"Is it a new car??"
"No."
"Did you renovate the house??"
"No...but it's an outside thing."
"It's a POOL! You got a pool!"
"No... they cost too much money..."

I think I may have frowned then...

"I give up. Just tell me."
"It's something I KNOW will make you really happy. Something that will change your life."
"Just tell me."
"I took out the gate you have to open every day on your way to school, and I put in a grid!"
"And what else?"
"That's it. I knew it would make you happy. I know how much you hated having to open and close that gate every day. Especially if it was raining. And I thought, this way, you never have to get the gate."

I think I may have smiled a little. Just a little.

This is the grid.


He even put in a little sign and everything.
And up close...



It wasn't until I actually started using the grid that I realised something very important. CP really loves me. I always knew he really loved me, but I realised how he just shows his love in a way that is so completely different to the way in which I express love. He chooses 'acts of kindness' to express his love, where as I am more of a 'verbal or physical' expresser of my love. When CP put that grid in for me, he would have spent considerable time beforehand thinking about how much it would improve my quality of life. He had foreseen how I would have one less thing to complain about. And then he slugged his guts out for at least a whole day or two to install this grid so that it was perfect for when I got home.

He must really love me.

Or maybe he just was sick of getting the gate too? No - he loves me.

I'm really not a big gift person. But it has taken some time getting used to the fact that CP is not a gift person AT ALL. And who am I kidding? I'm still not used to his ignorance in the gift giving department. But if I added up all the times he 'did something' for me to show me that he loved me, I would have lost count years ago. I'm more of a "thought that counts" kind of girl. And NO, CP, "Happy Birthday Jess" and then completely ignoring me for the remainder of my day does NOT count as a 'thought that counts'. But if you'd thrown in dinner cooked by you, then YES, it would definitely count. Just saying.

My sister, Hannah, has the world's most perfect partner. This is him.


He's a 'thought that counts' kind of guy, AND a gift giver. Amazing. This guy has to be told when to stop buying gifts. And he chooses GREAT gifts. He is responsible for this:


And this:


The man is a genius gift giver!

So I suppose that while some guys show love by cooking you braised (organic) asparagus on a bed of cheese and bacon cream for your birthday, other guys drive 90km to change a flat tyre, or pick you up when your gear box is broken. If you're lucky, I suppose some guys could do both.

And then there are the guys like Farmer Russell, next door, who just like to buy sparkly things for his wife. Or a nice car for her to drive around in. And I know life shouldn't be all about keeping up with the Joneses, but I'll admit that sometimes I do get sparkle and car envy.

Life is like that though. The grass is always greener, isn't it?
I wonder if anyone has grid envy after reading this?
 
Jess xxx (The Farmer's Wife)
http://bushmumma.blogspot.com/

4 comments:

Aiden's Mummy said...

Oh Jess, I think this is my favourite blog of yours. How nice you shared it as a guest on someone else's blog!
Braised asparagus comes and goes - a grid will last forever! xxx

Pauline said...

Ahh, Jess, how many girls can say they have their very own grid? I'm sure it is the envy of many a gate opening farmers wife.

Naomi said...

Oh my! I so love this post on love. How adorable and I love your honesty throughout it. So lovely to have you guest posting. Naomi x

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